Porn in the Church

At Elevate, we recently talked about How To Have Great Sex. You can listen here on itunes or listen online here. One of the things we talked about during the message was porn addiction.

You can't have a great sex life in your marriage or future marriage if you aren't protecting your heart right now (Proverbs 4:23).

Culture has told us that sex is not a big deal because it is just physical. You need to understand that sex is not only physical but highly emotional and spiritual.

One of the things that is destroying marriages AND future marriages is porn. I have heard that the Porn industry makes more than ABC, NBC, and CBS combined. Umm, that would be a problem! Porn is an addiction that is controlling a lot of people and destroying true intimacy between a husband and wife.

Here are a few things to help you:

1) Get radical

You need to get radical in protecting your heart. Jesus talks about cutting off your hand if it causes you to sin as he was speaking about adultery and lusting over someone (Matthew 5:28-29). What was He saying? Get Radical!

Destroy the secret stash, don't travel alone, disconnect the internet, avoid questionable places, cancel questionable subscriptions, etc.

Never in Scripture are we commanded to stay and fight temptation. We are always called to Flee! (1 Corinthians 6:18)

You may be saying aren't you being legalistic? No, it's called being smart and not putting yourself in situations where you may be tempted to follow through and sin.

2) Stop Making Excuses

I have heard men say "my wife and I never have sex so I look at porn instead." That is pathetic! Maybe she won't have sex with you because you never pay her attention except when you want to have sex. Lay down your life for your wife and seek to please her (Ephesians 5:25-33). If you fill her love tank up, watch out because she will be ready to receive you as her lover.

Porn is an addiction. If you think you don't have a problem, then stop right now for three weeks. You can't because it's an addiction! Stop saying it isn't a big deal. It is a big deal!

3) Get Help

You can't overcome this alone. You need to tell someone. (James 5:16) Tell someone you can trust so they can pray for you and help keep you accountable.

A great site for help is XXXchurch.com. They have software you can put on your computer and every questionable site will be sent to a friend you designate for accountability.

Send us an email if you need help. You don't have to go through this alone. Get help!